For the longest time I’ve been hearing people and even myself asking what LOVE really is. To some, it’s their family, their lover or even their pets. For those people who live for tha money (hehe) its their business and or their riches. I grew up believing that there’s no other LOVE than that of the LORD. And off course that’s true. But through the years, I have learned that in a person’e life there would come a point where he/she would fall deeply inlove with the opposite sex that they would actually forget what LOVE really is, how it works and how it should be treated…
RESPECT:
-love is all about respecting your partner. Emotionally, Physically and Mentally. Yes, there is such thing! You have to respect that person emotionally, nobody has the right to ever hurt somebody emotionaly through the things that he/she say to his partner. Physically respecting someone you love can be hard sometimes, now whoa wait a minute no I’m not talking about the “Physical, brutal, beating or bashing” up thing here. I’m talking about waiting for the right time to do IT. Right, who am I to brag about waiting, but when you love someone…regardless if that person is a virgin or not. You would respect that person’s desicion weather she/he wants to do it with you. Besides, I don’t think it would or it SHOULD ever matter if your are doing it or not. LOVE is all about accepting. I guess one being hurt mentally is probably one of the most brutal things a partner could ever do to you. Sometimes we tend to say bad things to the person we love specially when we’re mad. When someone loves YOU, remember that they shouldn’t be lying to you and never ever believe that you are worthless, because we all are worth more than we ever think we are.
Acceptance
-REMEMBER! YOU CAN NEVER BE TOO UGLY, OR TOO FAT OR TOO THIN OR TOO STUPID when your inlove. Because when YOUR really inlove, it shouldn’t matter what you look like, because you should be the best looking guy/girl to your loved one’s eyes. And when someone whom you THINK love’s you started complaining or started telling you stupid things like these, do not let it get into you. BECAUSE YOU WILL DEFINETLY FIND SOMEONE WHO WILL LOOK DEEP INTO YOUR EYES AND TELL YOU HOW BEAUTIFUL YOU ARE, SOMEONE WHO WILL LOOK AT YOU NOT THE SAME AS HE/SHE LOOKES AT EVERYBODY AND SOMEONE WHO WILL TREAT YOU BETTER, TREAT YOU THE WAY YOU SHOULD BE TREATED.
Worthless
-Love should be worthless. You shouldn never expect anything in return when loving a person. You give what you can give and all that you can give. But save some for yourself. Besides, LOVE is not just about the material things its about being happy even if the both of you can only afford to buy a bag of chips for your date. What’s important is that you have each other and that you make each other happy by being with one another.
ALL ABOUT YOU
-off course it should all be about you. But I’ve alwaysd believed that when you love a person, you would do everything and I MEAN EVERYTHING! To get to know that person better. You would dig up a thousand holes just to find out what her favorite flower is, what cologne she’s wearing, what song he likes, what movie makes her cry, what makes him smile and even the stupidest things like what their favorite color is. Its all about getting to know the person better, knowing what would actually put a smile on their face when they’re sad. What song or movie would remind you of them. It’s all about the little things that she love, the things that she likes doing and everything that interests her.
SACRIFICES
-yes, sacrifices in love is an old story, but believe me in all relationships that i have been into, sacrifices has to be made. No matter how big or small the sacrifice would be, its the thought and the effort that counts. And as I always say, “pag mahal ka ng isang tao,kahit na skyflakes at tubig nalang ang kainin niya ok lang sa kanya. Maihatid ka lang niya ng naka taxi o mapuntahan ka lang niya para magkasama at magkita kayo.” And that’s the truth!
NOT GIVING UP
-i have alwaysd believed that when you love someone you should never ever give up on them. I’ve had friends and family who have been an inspiration. They never gave up on the person that they loved most, never hesitated to love them unconditionaly regardless of how cruel they have been to them. Because at the back of their minds they knew that there would come a time where their loved one’s would finally realize of the love they’re being showered on, and off course these people wants to be there when that day comes. And that’s exactly how I felt…
IMPORTANCE
-I have so many friends who have been taken for granted of the people they love. And I must say that it aint pretty feeling like your the last in the priorities of the poeple you love. Off course there are some things and some people who cmes first before you, but you should never be the last in his/her list. I have expirienced so many times how to be taken for granted,how he actually took advantage of the fact that I love him so much. It even came to a point where I felt like a toy that he plays with only when his bored. And in any relationship, I don’t think its pretty healthy to make the other person feel that way. Because ‘WE ARE ALL WORTH THAN WHAT WE THINK WE ARE”
GRATITUDE
-I learned that we should all be thankful for what we have, for having someone who loves us unconditionally. And I guess its only right to give credit to that person how thankful we are of them.
YOU
-Of all this, what I learned best is he fact that you have to leave something even just a tiny bit of love for yourself. Yeah yeah thats an old bull, but its true. I learned that there are times where you just have to hold your feelings back and not let the person you love know how much you love them, specially when you know that he doesn’t even feel the same towards you. Because there wil come a time where he/she would take you for granted and take advantage of it. He will treat you like shit and won’t feel bad about it because he knows you love him too much that you won’t last a week or day without forgiving him. All he needs to do is give that sad look and make drama to you and then you’de take him back again.
Honesty, Understading, trust and Faithfulness are old recipes of LOVE, yes off course we all need those in love.I have been in and out of relationships sinec I was in my early teens. And in every relationship that I’ve been to, I’m proud to say that I have learned a valuable lesson with each expirience that i had. Ever since that very FIRST heartbreak, I swore to GOD that the next time I’de fall inlove it would definetly with someone worth loving and someone who could actually show me the meaning of true love. And yes, they were all worth loving and all of them taught me a lesson or two about love. I was never good at choosing a “partner”, I’de either end up with someone who cheats or someone who couldn’t care less about me or worse someone who just uses me. i am not proud of all the stupid desicions that I have made in love, but I’m definetly proud of myself for being able to survive all of them and learining what LOVE really means through the process because everything that I’ve been through and is going through I knew that I was never wrong on loving them, on sacrificing and loving them uncondiotionaly. Because there is honestly no right or wrong way in loving a person, its how much you love and show them that always matters.
